I
know many of you ladies are looking for Mr. Right and perhaps think that you
can make such a man over to your specifications with lots of love. I just want
you to know that is impossible. Every woman ever born who has tried her hand at
that has failed miserably and made herself miserable trying. In order to
perfect the imperfect man, you need to be the perfect woman which of course you
are not. What monumental arrogance it is to think you change a man for the
better. Little wonder you are drawn to the wrong kind. What you really need, of
course, is the kind of man who is noble and self-possessed, someone you cannot
own, one you cannot manipulate or control who is independent and not
excessively needful of your affections. When you have suffered enough from all
those other weaklings and beasts your ego need attracts, please refer back to
this manuscript. Meanwhile allow me to make my points. Perhaps I can save you
much suffering.
Contrary
to popular belief, marriage is not so much about happiness as it is concerned
with perfecting an ancient man-woman flaw and dealing with imperfect people
perfectly. Marriage is all about becoming perfect. The imperfect self will
always attract the imperfect mate, who will have all the unpleasant attributes
of one of his parents just the way you do. Both men and women bring into
marriage certain inherent flaws in their character that need to be corrected
through the patient love of their spouse. Each of us must deal perfectly with
the other's imperfections and that is the only way to happiness, here or
hereafter.
Every
woman is the unloved Eve needing corrective love, while every man is the
failing Adam who knows only to give his weakness-lust-as if it were love. Along
with his inordinate sex drive, Adam has a psychic need to be mothered. This ego
need to be mothered puts him in the role of a son, not the man with the loving
moral authority to correct his wife's faults. Therefore "mother's"
dominance and flaws grow into an inordinate need to be stopped by manly,
no-nonsense love. Unfortunately, her need for love is answered by his rage
which awakens the demand for sex.
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