the suffering in the world that ever was and ever will be, is caused by
everyone doing the same thing over and over;
all overreact, something gets inside and we all get upset with that...
is the common human flaw fatale, the “be-all, end-all” cause of all the misery,
diseases and suffering that ever was and shall ever be. This one response is
the root of everything (wrong) which if not remedied, will be the death of all
civilizations and humankind.
don't understand why my knees are not getting better”, my hairdresser said as
she cut my hair. I told her what I have said a thousand times before.
"Kathleen, you are a very stubborn lady, you have two problems that give
rise to all the others. First, you get upset too easily. The second problem is
that you get mad with all the difficulties that arise from being upset, a
vicious cycle”. This time she had hurt her knee in a fall and for some reason
it did not heal as it should have. Hairdressers have to stand on their feet all
day and since it was a threat to her livelihood, she did what she had always
done with her problems, resent it. Patiently I reiterated my advice.
couple of weeks later, while taking a little extra time to brush my hair with
appreciation, she said, "I see now what I have been doing wrong all my
life. Anger and frustration made me feel inferior and unworthy. That is what
has kept me from getting ahead in my work”. Her knee got better within a few
days of realizing how angry she'd been toward the pain and the threat of being
unable to make a living.
simple formula can easily explain and remedy most every difficulty. Any form of
resentment toward adversary and adversity alike inserts a program reinforced by
environment as well as your own futile internal struggle. Under duress, we
literally hand over the emotional machinery of our lives to others,
compounding every dilemma with frustration, the other name for resentment.
Once you grasp the significance of this concept the solution is not far off.