"Parents may not mean to
destroy their children. Often they don't realize what they are doing and when
they do, they don't know how to stop”.
The
essence of true love is not billing and cooing and being nice and friendly; it
is correction. Correction is the love we all need but is also what many of us
fear. Great wisdom and superb strength are needed to correct errant behavior.
The basic principle to realize is that love is a facet of understanding which
reveals itself in justice and in strength.
First,
love is patient. Without patience, everything you say or do will be wrong.
Second,
the effect of your love is not your responsibility. You may see the need to
point out errors or faults to another but you are not responsible for whether
or not they accept your correction. It is relieving to know that you personally
are never responsible for change in another. Your pride must never be involved.
The determination of your individual responsibility depends upon the
relationship you have, whether it is with your wife, husband, child, friend,
stranger or employer.
Third,
love may be silent. Bear in mind that silent corrections are just as potent as
verbal ones. The right kind of silence at the right time, the right kind of
look with perfect timing has powerful, meaningful impact. By correction, I mean
standing as a patient, long-suffering example of what another should be and see
in himself.
To
understand why you must be patient (non-responsive) you need to know the true
nature of man: People were not created to take shape from emotional pressure.
The Divine Will and Purpose, expressing It-self through the pressure of conscience,
must be the order of life.
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