Love
is giving and taking, need and the fulfillment of need. If, sensing your
thirst I were to offer you a cup of cold water my offer could be an expression
of love but if my gesture were to contain any motivation other than the simple
fulfillment of your need (if I were motivated by a desire to manipulate your
opinion of me, for instance) or to gain control of you in any way, there would
be no love at all in my offer and if your perception was not clouded by any
hidden motivation of your own, you would sense my loveless-ness. You might
accept the water, of course and thank me for it but you wouldn't deliver
yourself into my hands for it.
True
love is innocent and free, no strings attached. It gives and goes merrily on
its way. False love poisons and possesses but alas, how many of us are so pure
in heart that we have not at some time fallen prey to the blandishments of
manipulating love? It's like drinking salt water. You drink and your thirst
increases, until it becomes a craving and drives you to drink more and more,
until the salt in the water kills you. If you knew where to find fresh water,
you would gladly go there and drink it. Even so, would you seek out true love
if you knew where to find it? Our need for love is as basic and vital as our
need for water. So many of us are drawn to the poisoned well of "love"
to drink deeply, desperately and compulsively even though we know it will kill
us in the end.
Before
you say to yourself, "Well, my love is pure, he can't be talking about
me", please take a good look at your relationships with those around you.
By his rebelliousness, maybe your "ungrateful" son is trying to
communicate something that he cannot find words for or the violent behavior of
your husband might be saying, "Stop loving me, stop possessing me. You're
eating me alive!" If he runs to the fountainhead of another's "love”,
he is saying that your "love" has become too destructive, demanding
and degrading. He thinks, of course, that the other woman's "love" is
different but he has forgotten how it all started with you. He may find fresher
water but he will be hooked by the same old bait. After all, it worked for you.
Why shouldn't it work as well for her?
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